My Radio Show
On my radio show, Relationships 2.0, I interview guests who present their unique perspectives and expertise on topics that cover all aspects of relationships. The authors and experts I chat with offer advice and tips for understanding ourselves and others better.
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APRIL – JUNE, 2013
Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday June 25, 2013
My guests this week are Raychelle Cassada Lohmann and Julia Taylor, authors of The Bullying Workbook for Teens.
About the book:
Being a teenager is difficult enough without having to worry about bullying. If you have experienced bullying or cyberbullying, you aren’t alone. Bullying and cyberbullying are at an all-time high, and the effects of both can be tremendous for a young person who is already dealing with major school, life, and home stressors.
The Bullying Workbook for Teens incorporates cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help ease anxiety, fear, stress, and other emotions associated with being bullied. The workbook is made up of 42 step-by-step self-help activities designed to help you learn anti-bullying tips and strategies, manage emotions such as anxiety, fear, anger, and depression, and learn constructive communication skills to help you express your feelings.
With this workbook as your guide, you will also learn how to identify toxic friendships, how to build your own self-confidence, and importantly, how to ask for help when bullying gets out of control. The exercises in this book are designed to be useful in everyday situations, so that you gain helpful tools to help you combat bullying or cyberbullying in your life. Bullying can happen to anyone, but there is hope to make a change and stand up for yourself, once and for all.
If you are experiencing bullying, this book will offer sound psychological support to help you gain confidence in yourself and in your interactions with others. It is also a great resource for parents, educators, and counseling professionals.
About the authors:
Raychelle Cassada Lohmann, MS, LPC, is a national board certified counselor and a licensed professional counselor. Lohmann has worked as a school counselor at the middle school and high school levels, and has helped hundreds of teens deal with feelings of frustration and anger. Raychelle has participated in extensive research on anger and specializes in individual and group counseling for anger management. She is the author of The Anger Workbook for Teens and Staying Cool…When You’re Steaming Mad.
Julia V. Taylor, MA, is author of Perfectly You, G.I.R.L.S. (Girls in Real Life Situations), and Salvaging Sisterhood. She speaks nationally about relational aggression, body image, media literacy, and other teen topics. Taylor has experience working in middle and high school settings as a professional school counselor.
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Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday June 18, 2013
My guest this week is Holly Hazlett-Stevens author of Women Who Worry Too Much: How to Stop Worry & Anxiety from Ruining Relationships, Work & Fun.
About the book:
Women are more likely than men to develop anxiety disorders, a fact which researchers have attributed to a range of biological, psychological, and cultural factors. This predispostion inclines women to worry more than men about things like social problems, work, finances-even about worry itself, a phenomenon psychologists call meta-worry. The goal of this book is to help readers control excessive worry by learning to perceive threats more accurately and to stop focusing on things that are unlikely to happen.
Following an introduction by noted psychologist Michelle Craske that explores the reasons women worry more than men, the book addresses the fundamentals of worry: what it is, how it differs from anxiety, and how it can develop into a chronic state of mind. The book offers strategies for overcoming worry that include monitoring personal worry triggers, breaking worry-provoking habits, and avoiding avoidance-a major aggravating factor for all anxiety disorders. From it, you’ll learn to use mindfulness techniques to avoid ruminating on the past or the future and how to use progressive relaxation to cope with worrisome situations.
About the author:
Holly Hazlett-Stevens, PhD is assistant professor of psychology at the University of Reno, NV. She has conducted psychological research in the areas of worry, anxiety, and relaxation for the past ten years, which has led to the publication of more than twenty journal articles and book chapters. She is co-author of New Directions in Progressive Relaxation Training.
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Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday June 11, 2013
My guest this week is Thomas G. Plante PhD ABPP, author of Do the Right Thing: Living Ethically in an Unethical World.
About the book:
How should you live your life? Our actions and choices dramatically affect our thoughts and feelings about ourselves and the world around us. Few things promote good mental health better than a clear conscience and the peace of mind that come from knowing you’ve done the right thing. But, in our ever more complicated world, what are the right choices? How can we make decisions that are at the same time good for us, good for our community—and just plain good?
This book, written by an esteemed psychologist and ethicist, helps you answer these questions and develop a sound system for making the right choices in each situation. First, the book offers a clear, easy-to-understand survey of the major traditions in ethics and their approaches to problem solving. Then it explains an innovative, five-step process you can use to make sound, ethical choices. The RRICC system works by helping you examine situations according to five ethical principles: responsibility, respect, integrity, competence, and concern. By following the lucid, step-by-step exercises that introduce the system, you will learn and practice invaluable decision-making skills—simple, reliable techniques you can use at any time, in any place to make sure you always do the right thing.
About the author:
Thomas G. Plante, Ph.D., ABPP is the Augustin Cardinal Bea, S.J. University Professor at Santa Clara University and adjunct clinical professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Stanford University School of Medicine. He recently served as Vice-Chair of the National Review Board for the Protection of Children and Youth for the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops and is Past-President of the Society for the Psychology of Religion and Spirituality (Division 36) of the American Psychological Association (APA). He received his ScB degree in psychology from Brown University, his M.A. and PhD degrees in clinical psychology from the University of Kansas. He has authored, co-authored, edited, or co-edited 16 books including Sexual Abuse in the Catholic Church: A Decade of Crisis, 2002-2012, Sin against the Innocents: Sexual Abuse by Priests and the Role of the Catholic Church, Bless Me Father For I Have Sinned: Perspectives on Sexual Abuse Committed by Roman Catholic Priests, Religion, Spirituality, and Positive Psychology, and Contemplative Practices in Action: Spirituality, Meditation, and Health as well as published over 175 scholarly professional journal articles and book chapters. His area of clinical and research interest focuses on stress and coping, the influence of aerobic exercise and perceived fitness on psychological functioning, faith and health outcomes, psychological issues among Catholic clergy and laypersons, and ethical decision making. He has been featured in numerous media outlets including Time Magazine, CNN, NBC Nightly News, the PBS News Hour, New York Times, USA Today, British Broadcasting Company, National Public Radio, among many others. He has evaluated or treated more than 700 priests and applicants to the priesthood and diaconate in the Catholic and Episcopal churches. Time Magazine referred to him (April 1, 2002) as one of “three leading (American) Catholics.” He maintains a private practice in Menlo Park, CA where he lives with his wife, Lori (also a psychologist) and son, Zachary.
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Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday June 4, 2013
My guest this week is Linda Graham author of Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being.
About the book:
Resilience is the ability to face and handle life’s challenges, whether everyday disappointments or extraordinary disasters. While resilience is innate in the brain, over time we learn unhelpful patterns, which then become fixed in our neural circuitry. But science is now revealing that what previously seemed hardwired can be rewired, and Bouncing Back shows us how. With powerful, time-tested exercises, Linda Graham guides us in rebuilding our core well-being and disaster-proofing our brains.
About the author:
Linda Graham, MFT, is an experienced psychotherapist in private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area. She integrates modern neuroscience, mindfulness practices, and relational psychology into her nationwide trainings. Her monthly Healing and Awakening into Aliveness and Wholeness e-newsletters are archived on www.lindagraham-mft.net
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Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday May 28, 2013
My guest on Relationships 2.0 this week is Steve Flowers author of The Mindful Path Through Shyness: How Mindfulness and Compassion Can Help Free You From Social Anxiety, Fear, and Avoidance.
About the book:
Shyness often helps protect us from the judgments and resentments of others, but once you get in the habit of avoiding social situations, you can become stuck in a cycle of avoidance that can be difficult to escape. Ready to let go of shyness and make stronger connections with others? The Mindful Path Through Shyness shows you how.
This guide uses techniques from mindfulness-based stress reduction and cognitive behavioral therapy to help you cultivate awareness of your own thoughts so that you can act with more wisdom and compassion toward yourself. Over time, you will be able to free yourself of the old mental habits of self-consciousness and self-blame, and replace them with new habits that foster confidence and joy.
About the author:
Steve Flowers, MA, MFT has been deeply invested in meditation practice since 1974 and is in private practice online and at his Chico office specializing in mindfulness-based psychotherapy.
In addition, Steve conducts the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Clinic online and at Enloe Medical Center in Chico, California. Steve conducts numerous mindfulness retreats each year for the general public and up to six fully accredited retreats a year for physicians, psychologists, nurses and licensed mental health professionals. www.mindfullivingprograms.com
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Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday May 21, 2013
My guest this week is Margaret Floyd, author of Eat Naked and The Naked Foods Cookbook. She will talk about the “devil in white”: sugar. We’ll look at how it’s hurting us, why it’s ubiquitous, and where it’s hiding in our diets in all its many forms. And most importantly, we’ll look at how to profoundly change our relationship with it so that we do not remain in its grip.
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Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday May 7, 2013
The guests this week are Carolyn Daitch, PhD and Lissah Lorberbaum, MA co-authors of Anxious in Love: How to Manage Your Anxiety, Reduce Conflict, and Reconnect with Your Partner.
About the book:
Healthy relationships require trust, intimacy, effective communication, and understanding. However, if you suffer from chronic anxiety you may have trouble dealing with everyday conflicts and tensions that can arise in relationships. No matter how committed you are, anxiety can leave you feeling distanced from your partner. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to overcome the anxiety-fueled reactions that keep you from achieving true closeness in your relationship.
Written by two experts on anxiety disorders, Anxious in Love offers easy-to-use techniques for calming anxieties and strengthening communication in your relationship. With this book, you will learn to stay centered when faced with conflict, understand your partner’s perspective, and become more independent. By changing the way you react to triggers and stress, you will be able to focus on enjoying time with the one you love, without anxiety getting in the way.
About the authors:
Carolyn Daitch, PhD, is a licensed psychologist and certified Imago relationship therapist. She is the author of Affect Regulation Toolbox and Anxiety Disorders: The Go to Guide for Clients and Therapists. She is also a contributing author in Clinical Pearls of Wisdom: 21 Leading Therapists Offer Their Key Insights and Ten Commandments for Couples. She specializes in treating anxiety disorders; trains health professionals internationally on hypnosis, anxiety disorders, affect regulation, and relationship therapy; and is the director of the Center for the Treatment of Anxiety Disorders in Farmington Hills, MI. Dr. Daitch lives in West Bloomfield, MI.
Lissah Lorberbaum, MA, holds a master’s degree in clinical psychology with a specialization in somatic psychology and treats affect dysregulation across a wide range of clientele. She lives and works in Los Angeles, CA.
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Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday April 30, 2013
My guest this week is Tammy Nelson, PhD author of The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationships After Infidelity.
About the book:
Everyone has their own concept of what “monogamy” means—and most people assume their partners and spouses are on the same page. Couples may assume that they are monogamous, but never discuss exactly what the monogamy agreement means to them. What happens when this implicit agreement is broken? After infidelity, relationships can become strained as both partners lose trust and faith in each other. The New Monogamy offers a way out of these difficulties for couples struggling to stay together after infidelity. Couples make these implicit assumptions and agreements explicit so that each partner knows exactly what is expected of them in the future and what they can expect from their partner.
Author Tammy Nelson helps couples regain trust, romance, and intimacy after infidelity by redefining the monogamy contract. The new monogamy contract is an explicit relationship agreement created after the affair that allows each partner to openly, honestly, and safely share their desires, expectations, and limitations. This agreement does not create an open marriage, but rather, an open conversation wherein each partner can have a say in setting the ground rules for their relationship. The book first helps couples rebuild trust after the affair, then engages in a series of Imago dialogues based on questions about what each partner really wants in the relationship, not what you think you should want or what a partner wants you to want. The New Monogamy includes questionnaires, checklists, and candid questions for partners to ask that help welcome complete honesty and trust back into the relationship. Then, the book helps couples make an erotic recovery from infidelity by addressing erotic problems that may surface and offers advice for helping couples return to desiring and trusting one another. After an affair, it’s impossible to go back to the way the relationship was before, but this book offers the chance for a new beginning.
About the author:
Dr Tammy Nelson, is an internationally known speaker, a licensed psychotherapist and author with over 20 years experience working with individuals and couples. She is a Certified Sexologist, she holds a PhD in Sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexology, is a Board Diplomate in Sexology, is a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Registered Art Therapist, and a Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor as well as a Certified Imago therapist, a Certified Imago workshop presenter and an Advanced Clinician.
Tammy is the author of several books including Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together and is also the author of What’s Eating You a workbook for young people with food issues.
Nelson leads workshops for couples in “Sex and Intimacy” and “Getting the Love You Want” workshops based on Harville Hendrix’s best selling book and his theory of Imago therapy.
Tammy teaches workshops and seminars around the world, and has worked with Eve Ensler (of the Vagina Monologues) in her Broadway production of “The Good Body”, where Tammy provided workshops in the “Red Tent” Installation in New York City along with the likes of Christiana Northrup and Isabella Rosellini.
She is the mother of four children; all in the teen years. She lives in CT and has a private practice where she sees couples and individuals.
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Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday April 23, 2013
My guest this week is Martin Antony, PhD author of When Perfect Isn’t Good Enough: Strategies for Coping with Perfectionism.
About the book:
It’s only natural to want to avoid making mistakes, but imperfection is a part of being human. And while perfectionists are often praised for their abilities, being constantly anxious about details can hold you back and keep you from reaching your full potential.
In this fully revised and updated second edition of When Perfect Isn’t Good Enough, you’ll discover the root cause of your perfectionism, explore the impact of perfectionism on your life, and find new, proven-effective coping skills to help you overcome your anxiety about making mistakes. This guide also includes tips for dealing with other perfectionists and discussions about how perfectionism is linked to worry, depression, anger, social anxiety, and body image. As you complete the exercises in this book, you’ll find it easier and easier to keep worries at bay and enjoy life — imperfections and all.
This book has been awarded The Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Seal of Merit — an award bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.
About the author:
Martin Antony PhD is professor of psychology at Ryerson University in Toronto, ON, Canada. He is also director of research at the Anxiety Treatment and Research Centre at St. Joseph’s Healthcare in Hamilton, ON, Canada, and president-elect of the Canadian Psychological Association. He lives in Toronto, ON, Canada. www.martinantony.com
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Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday April 16, 2013
My guest this week is Betsy Prioleau author of Swoon: Great Seducers and Why Women Love Them.
About the book:
Swoon is a glittering pageant of charismatic ladies’ men from Casanova to Lord Byron to Camus to Ashton Kutcher. It challenges every preconceived idea about great lovers and answers one of history’s most vexing questions: what do women want?
Contrary to popular myth and dogma, the men who consistently beguile women belie the familiar stereotypes: satanic rake, alpha stud, slick player, Mr. Nice, or big-money mogul. As Betsy Prioleau, author of Seductress, points out in this surprising, insightful study, legendary ladies’ men are a different, complex species altogether, often without looks or money. They fit no known template and possess a cache of powerful erotic secrets.
With wit and erudition, Prioleau cuts through the cultural lore and reveals who these master lovers really are and the arts they practice to enswoon women. What she discovers is revolutionary. Using evidence from science, popular culture, fiction, anthropology, and history, and from interviews with colorful real-world ladykillers, Prioleau finds that great seducers share a constellation of unusual traits.
While these men run the gamut, they radiate joie de vivre, intensity, and sex appeal; above all, they adore women. They listen, praise, amuse, and delight, and they know their way around the bedroom. And they’ve finessed the hardest part: locking in and revving desire. Women never tire of these fascinators and often, like Casanova’s conquests, remain besotted for life.
Finally, Prioleau takes stock of the contemporary culture and asks: where are the Casanovas of today? After a critique of the twenty-first-century sexual malaise—the gulf between the sexes and women’s record discontent—she compellingly argues that society needs ladies’ men more than ever. Groundbreaking and provocative, Swoon is underpinned with sharp analysis, brilliant research, and served up with seductive verve.
About the author:
Betsy Prioleau is the author of Seductress and Circle of Eros and was a scholar in residence at New York University where she taught cultural history. She lives in New York City.
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Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday April 9, 2013
My guest this week is Sheri Van Dijk, author of DBT Made Simple: A Step-by-Step Guide to Dialectical Behavior Therapy.
About the book:
Originally developed for the treatment of borderline personality disorder, dialectical behavior therapy, or DBT, has rapidly become one of the most popular and most effective treatments for all mental health conditions rooted in out-of-control emotions. However, there are limited resources for psychologists seeking to use DBT skills with individual clients. In the tradition of ACT Made Simple, DBT Made Simple provides clinicians with everything they need to know to start using DBT in the therapy room.
The first part of this book briefly covers the theory and research behind DBT and explains how DBT differs from traditional cognitive behavioral therapy approaches. The second part focuses on strategies professionals can use in individual client sessions, while the third section teaches the four skills modules that form the backbone of DBT: core mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness. The book includes handouts, case examples, and example therapist-client dialogue—everything clinicians need to equip their clients with these effective and life-changing skills.
About the author:
Sheri Van Dijk, MSW, is a mental health therapist in private practice and at Southlake Regional Health Centre in Newmarket, ON, Canada. She is the author of The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook for Bipolar Disorder, Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life for Teens, and Calming the Emotional Storm, and is coauthor of The Bipolar Workbook for Teens. In September 2010, she received the R.O. Jones Award from the Canadian Psychiatric Association for her research on using DBT skills to treat bipolar disorder.
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Relationships 2.0 on Tuesday April 2, 2013
My guests this week are Rebecca Williams and Julie Kraft, authors of The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with the Grief, Stress and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors.
About the book:
Most addictive behavior is rooted in some type of loss, be it the death of a loved one, coming to terms with limitations set by chronic health problems, or the end of a relationship. By turning to drugs and alcohol, people who have suffered a loss can numb their grief. In the process, they postpone their healing and can drive themselves further into addiction.
The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction offers readers an effective program for working through their addiction and grief with cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). Created by a psychologist who works for the Department of Veterans Affairs and a marriage and family therapist who works for Sharp Mesa Vista Hospital, this mindfulness training workbook is effective for treating the emotion dysregulation, stress, depression, and grief that lie at the heart of addiction. No matter the loss, the mindfulness skills in this workbook help readers process their grief, determine the function their addiction is serving, and replace the addiction with healthy coping behaviors.
About the authors:
Rebecca E. Williams, PhD, is a clinical psychologist specializing in recovery from mental illness and addictions. She received her master’s degree from Harvard University and her PhD from the University of California, Santa Barbara. She is currently the director of the Veterans Affairs San Diego Healthcare System’s Wellness and Vocational Enrichment Clinic. In addition, she is an associate clinical professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of California, San Diego, an adjunct faculty member at the University of San Diego, and coauthor of Couple Therapy for Alcoholism. She has a psychotherapy practice in San Diego, CA.
Julie S. Kraft, LMFT, received her master’s degree in marriage and family therapy from the University of San Diego’s School of Leadership and Education Sciences. She has provided counseling to veterans and their family members at the Veterans Affairs San Diego Healthcare System and has provided psychotherapy to individuals, couples, families, and groups in community settings. In her current position with Sharp HealthCare, she treats clients struggling with both addiction and mental health concerns. She lives and works in San Diego, CA.
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Special Relationships 2.0 with Randi Gunther author of
Relationship Saboteurs
Occasionally there is an author who I would love to have on Relationships 2.0 but their schedule prevents them from being on my show live. Randi is one of those people. I didn’t want to miss an opportunity to hear her words of wisdom and bring them to you. She is an important voice on the topic of relationships. Here is the special recording of our conversation.
About the book:
Do you seek a healthy romantic relationship, but continue to find yourself repeating the same negative behaviors that may have ended your relationships in the past? Have you already identified destructive patterns, yet continue to repeat them despite your desire for a strong and lasting romantic relationship? If so, you are not alone.
Relationship Saboteurs is an easy-to-follow guide that will help you identify and end your relationship-destroying tendencies once and for all. The book explores the ten most common relationship-undermining behaviors and shows you how to overcome them. By understanding and addressing the patterns that erode romance, you can learn to stop sabotaging your love life and prepare yourself for the healthy romantic relationship you deserve.
About the author:
Dr. Randi Gunther is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her forty year career, she has accumulated over 100,000 face-to-face hours with individuals and couples. She has inspired hundreds of people in her workshops and lectures to go beyond their limitations and create successful relationships. A practical idealist, she encourages her patients to break the bonds of repeated negative patterns and to pursue new options.
“The creation of a long-lasting, wonderful relationship is not automatic or easy. Like any other important commitment, it can only continue paying dividends with a continuous re-investment of time, energy, and devotion. From the thousands of hours I’ve spent with couples and individuals, I have learned what skills and values successful couples practice that ensure their love will continue to regenerate. My books are an encapsulation of those principles.”
Dr. Gunther and her husband met when they were in their teens and have continued their mutual devotion for over fifty years. They feel that the principles and skills in this book are what have successfully guided them on their journey through life together.
She regularly shares her articles on Psychology Today Blogs and on Huffington Post, and can be reached directly by logging on to her web site, randigunther.com.
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